So...time for honesty. Interesting concept when it comes to dating huh?! Guys here are literally having guy conversations and going and telling girls...the only reason you aren't getting dates is because you are fat. Guys do not want to date girls who are chubby.
Yet, girls who are chubby want to be liked for who they are as well as how they look...actually it was my understanding that is what all women want. Chubby girls are still cute/pretty/etc. and I'm not talking about just personality. And actually, most chubby girls when they get into a serious relationship that is good for them end up losing weight...without a guy harping at them about it.
I know of a guy who told his girlfriend he could never really get serious about her because she was just to fat for him. They later on ended up getting married.
But seriously....women in America are so sick and tired of the view that you have to be model thin in order to be worthy of any ones attention. This pressure to be 'perfect' causes anorexia, bulimia, depression and a wealth of other mental and emotion problems in women....starting when they are children. Seriously.
So when I hear these guys saying they don't date because there is no one 'worthy' of their attention because of the way they look. I just think....so when they have kids....if they do procreate....and their daughters or sons go through a chubby phase where kids may make fun of them; I wonder if they will support and comfort their kids or sit them down for an honest chat and tell them that no one is going to like them while they are over weight. Yup self esteem booster right there.
Sigh. So...sound off....what is your opinion. Should we appreciate men's honesty in telling you that you are not loved cause you are fat because you just need a reality check as a wake up call to lose weight, or am I just surrounded by shallow men who need to learn humility? Or am I missing another perspective out there? Please help me understand.
